Monthly Archives: January 2010

Should you wear a tux or a suit?


I came across this interesting piece about choosing a tux or suit for your wedding day. For anyone who is fashion-inept, this is a good read! Keep in mind that selecting the right outfit all depends on what makes you look good and not what you want to look good in. Believe me. I’ve seen some guys who absolutely should not wear a tux with coattails because they are simply too short. Alternatively, I’ve seen some guys whose pants are too short for them!

Read the full article, Choosing a Tuxedo or Suit for Your Wedding Day.


The Size of your Wedding Entourage


The wedding entourage, also known as the wedding party, is one of the most memorable aspects of a wedding considering that they often consist of your closest family and friends. She could your high school best friend who is now your maid of honor, or your little sister who is now your flower girl. But, what if you can’t afford to have a group of 7 bridesmaids, two flowergirls, including a maid of honor? It would be rather sad now, wouldn’t it? Well, at least, nowdays times are changing and so are the sizes of the wedding entourage.

My belief is that it is now more acceptable to have a small bridal party with just 2-3 bridesmaids sans the flower girl. Plus, if you are considering the cost of having to pay for their dresses, things can add up unless they are willing to shoulder the cost of their dresses, which is so tactless. I mean, it would be sorely bad to make them pay for their outfits considering that you chose them! So, if you ask me, if you want to save money, just have one maid of honor and a bestman at the wedding.

In this way, you won’t have to worry about the cost of a large bridal party. I know! This isn’t for everyone, but times are tough right now and for some, this is an option.

Laid off while planning a wedding?


When you think about life, a lot of things can hit you when you least expect it. To make a long story short, just like millions of Americans out there, I was hit with a layoff. However, I’m back in business now!

After this stressful experience, the one topic that I’d like to talk about is what do you when you are laid off while planning a wedding? I mean planning a wedding itself is a stressful endeavor, so when one of you or heaven forbid, both of you are laid off, what do you do to cope? Many people will probably manage it differently, however, the best advice I can offer is the following:

1) Have a realistic measure of your goals (short-term) while planning the wedding. This is the best thing you can do.

2) Determine if you need to cut back on any unnecessary expenses. For example, you can forego a honeymoon in the short-term. Then when you get back on your feet, plan a special one that you can really enjoy!

3) Form a support group. I don’t care if your support group consists of just you and your dog! Just make one. You can even blog about the experience and make some extra pennies along the way by setting up an ad-revenue generating blog.

4) Don’t lash out. Take time to relax! It’s hard when your ego just got bruised, but be careful not to take it out on your fiancé. Be sure to communicate and talk about how you feel.

5) Plan your time well. If you are balancing a job search, while planning the wedding, set aside a reasonable time for searching.

6) Network! I mean network properly, of course. Take time to reach out to people who can help you with leads.

7) Stay positive and things will work out. You can be negative, but you can also be positive about things. Apply this to your wedding planning as well. If you are mad at the cake maker for using the wrong flavor or design, stir it to your advantage. Find a way to negotiate. Maybe a discount?

8..) Postpone? Ask yourself if the wedding can be put on hold first. If it’s possible, then talk it over and come up with a new date. There is nothing worse than having a feeling of void at this time.

9) Stay well. Stay fit.

10) Manage the wedding planning as if it’s a project that you can learn from. It takes a certain amount of project management skills to pull off a wedding, so use the experience as a way of gaining new skills! Who knows, you may even end up becoming a wedding planner.